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Most of us have perfect body images in our heads and it is alright, as long as we don’t criticise someone for not confirming to them. Body shaming is all those subtle and not so subtle, unkind words and criticism, targetting someone for not fitting another person’s idea of an acceptable body type. It is not limited to a particular gender or body type and is sadly, everywhere.As someone who has been fat shamed a lot, I just wish I could tell every body shamer that:
- All of us have mirrors at home and look into it – Everytime I’m told I’ve gotten fat, I want to tell them that I just looked into the mirror and also that I’m not blind. If only they could concentrate on watching their words more than the changes in my body ! *Rolls eyes*
- Not everyone is blessed with great genetics – Some of us try very hard and lose fat or gain mass really slowly. Our efforts might be double than that of a genetically blessed person, but the results come out to be really slow. Next time they stuff burgers into their mouths, in bodies with superior genes, and fat shame me, I will pray to God that their genes feel bad for me and ask their metabolism to teach them a lesson!
- Unkind words are not a source of motivation – It is so bold of some people to assume that someone actually needs to be hurt and told unkind things about their bodies to start their fitness journey. There is a thin line between encouragement and body shaming and until one can see that, they should really try this exercise called *lip curls* where you curl your lips inwards and seal them tight.
- People suffer from several disorders and their words are not helping – People suffer from disorders like bulimia, anorexia and Body Image Disorder, which are most of the times, a result of body shaming. Imagine someone induce vomiting with a hand down their throat, everytime they eat, because they were told they’re too fat! How hard is it to be kind?
- Nobody is perfect – As cliched that line might sound, it is every bit true. Nobody has the perfect body. I might try and fit someone’s standards, someone somewhere would still have complains with it. So if they are telling someone that they’re too skinny or too fat or too muscular, they should probably know that some people are struggling to be what they might have just criticised, and even if not, then they should atleast consider their imperfections. I mean, with their eye for flaws, I’m sure it wouldn’t be that hard to seek within.
Of course, we should concentrate on being healthier and have better lifestyles and encourage others to do well, but not by being critical or hurtful. In a world so unkind, people are making efforts everyday. They have their own struggles and their own fights. It is always nice to be nice, to be kind.